Why It’s Okay to Change Your Mind
Written by Let Lei Be Lei
I changed my mind!
No, I’m not referencing the Keyshia Cole and Kanye collab. I’m talking about my mindset. I attribute all my accomplishments to simply making the decision to take myself seriously. Sounds easy, but let me tell you: hushing the lies that you’ve told yourself (for most of your life) takes consistent practice. So, please be advised...this may sound easy, but getting to the joy that I have now was a huge challenge.
Let me paint a picture for you. In May 2015, I set out to start my website, LetLeiBeLei.com, in hopes to show others that we millennials don’t have to wait for a vacation to have an adventurous life. The goal was established, but boyyyyy...my mind was not there. As you may or may not know, I didn’t launch my website until August 2017!
You’re probably thinking, “So why the two-year gap?” Ultimately, it wasn’t my time. Digging deeper, I realized I wanted everything to be PERFECT (even myself)! It took me two years to get to that place where I was comfortable giving what I had to offer, and perfecting it as I moved. The 2018 version of me had to undergo some major renovations, but it was totally worth it.
Over those two years (and still to this day), I meditated on three phrases that helped to shift my mindset into being an industry leader and overall joy generator!
Give God Something to Work With
Because I wanted to be perfect upon launching my site, I began to leave tasks uncompleted and gave up when things didn’t look like what I imagined. I remember hearing the phrase “Give God Something to Work With” and I began to get to work. I started creating lists of things I wanted to accomplish, and I planned a strategy to make sure that they were completed. I just wanted to bring something to the table, even if it wasn't at the level at which I saw myself. This ended up helping me grow because I learned how to creatively navigate around my shortcomings, or in turn use them to my advantage.
With the content I choose to produce, present, and advertise, I didn’t want to find myself doing just anything, and shoving it in people’s faces. I didn’t want to continually ask my friends if they read my article or if they could share it: I wanted them to do it because they wanted to. I wanted this process to be organic and natural. This thought shift allowed me to dig deeper into my content development and genuinely connect with my target audience.
My prayers have been guided by these two words: miraculous transformation! Not meaning that things would fall from the sky as I needed them, but that the work that I’m doing matched with my faith, and with the right opportunity, would provide me with what I need. For example, I’d been wanting to better occupy my time and stick to the goals that I had made for myself. First, I started making a schedule to stick to, then asking God to help me stay on track, to ultimately watching my lifestyle change before my eyes. I rarely watch television now because it was negatively occupying my time. I say “No” to things that don’t align with my goals because they negatively occupy my time. It started as something I was trying to do, and slowly became a part of me. God intervened on my behalf, yes, but I had to take steps towards transforming in order to experience change.
This year, I believe more than ever that shifting your mindset has more to do with your success than money, or followers, or fame, or any other egotistical form of measurement there is. The best thing I could have done for myself and my future was build and strengthen my thought process. I’ve reaped great rewards, and the best part is that there is so much more to come.
I pray that your 2018 be filled with continued success and a renewed mind!